Last week I was at Lifeway looking for a book when I happened across “If I’m Waiting on God, then What Am I Doing in a Christian Chatroom?” and after taking one look at the cover and reading the back, I knew this would be a good book… even if I learned nothing about Christian dating, it would be entertaining.
I was right.
(And yes, I judged a book by it’s cover… I repented… but I was right…)
Written by a comediane, Kerri Pomarolli, it had me in striches the entire time, except the part that was toe stepping, and even then I was laughing. And the toe stepping? Well, it’s because I feel as if I could’ve written this book myself about my antics while dating…I could relate each of the men she dated to men that I have dated and the thoughts that she had while single to the same thoughts that I’ve had.
If it did nothing else, it made me realize that I am not crazy and that more than just me go through these things.
It was a nice feeling to have.
The biggest thing that I took away from this book (short of knowing that I wasn’t crazy was this:
There are certain things in a mate that you must have.. they are deal breakers… like my potential husband must like Mexican food. It’s a deal breaker, people. It just is…
While I’ve known that there are other things that I’m looking for in a mate, I couldn’t seem to come up with the right words for them… I couldn’t describe what I was looking for in a coherent manner… until I read this and she spelled out the three biggest for me…
1. A man whose life is a reflection of his devotion to God.
2. A man who will pray with me and for me and encourage me in my spiritual walk.
3. A man who will put God above everything else in his life, even me.
Pretty deep, eh? But spot on.
I know he’s out there… and if I’m just patient (I hate that word)… in His time, we’ll meet.
Until next time…
Heather
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I’ve been meaning to introduce you to my brother-in-law. He’s been to all of the Upward games, you may have seen him with me. He’s a great guy looking for a great gal. He is a Christian too! We have to talk….email me.
This post subject reminds me of my husband’s ex-roommate in college. He would declare he was going to wait on God to bring him the perfect woman, then he’d be asking the next girl he saw for her digits.
Not that I’m saying you do that, or anything.
Oh, I’d better just quit while I’m ahead.
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My hubby and I met over 6 years ago in a Christian chatroom. I had resisted the idea of trying to meet someone that way because I just didn’t think that God would work thru the internet. In our first phone conversation, he asked me what I was looking for in a mate. I had already thought about that, so my response was (and still is!), “I want my husband to love God more than he loves me.” I still remind my hubby that I am not his #1 priority - God is. And does the same for me.
Just thought I’d share….
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Hey. Thanks for your comment on my blog a few posts back. Glad you had a good date, too.
I also want to be with a believer. The problem is I’ve had a terrible time finding one who is dateable, believable or tolerable. My ex-husband started out as a believer but then became a deist/agnostic. My son’s dad claimed to be a believer, but abused me. I could give you numerous stories.
So, where does that leave me? Assuming nothing when a man claims to be a Christian, and not assuming that there isn’t potential when a man DOESN’T say he is a believer (make sense?).
Keep me posted on your dating life!
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