Have you ever just lost it?
I mean, LOST IT. Lost it to the point where you children are scared. (And not I’m going to pretend like I’m scared so she’ll shut up scared, but leaving the scene of the incident and won’t come out of their rooms until the all-clear has been given scared.)
If you’re a mother, I know you have.
If you haven’t, I need a little of whatever you have… (if it’s legal of course.)
I try so hard to keep it together. I really do. I don’t want to be the one that is yelling all the time. Yelling doesn’t make it better although at the time it feels GOOD. But the damage is so vast!
Last week, I had a thing start pushing for something. I was calm and staked my claim – No. But this thing kept at it… pushing and pushing and pushing.
And I remained calm. I continued to say no.
And this thing pushed one more time.
I came so unglued that there was no residue of where I had once been held together. I was in the face. I was yelling. I was hot.
I was far from Christ.
I was far from the role model that I want to be for those around me, especially my children.
Boy can teenagers bring out the devil in you or what?
I don’t want to be like that. I don’t want to come unglued…with my children, at my job, because things don’t go my way.
That’s not who I want to be.
I started the Unglued Bible Study this week with Melissa Taylor and P31 Ministries. It’s online. It fits my schedule.
But it’s freaky.
This book is me.
A few quotes that I’ve related to:
“I know what it’s like to praise God one minute and in the next minute scream and yell at my child ” p.14
“God gave us emotions so we could experience life not so we could destroy it.” p.16
“I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control.” p.23
“We can’t always fix our circumstances, but we can fix our minds on God.” p.28
Hope. And a focus on imperfect progress.
If you struggle with coming unglued, it’s not too late to join us in our Bible Study.
Until next time….
I enjoyed your blog. My kids are grown now but I can still recall the many times that I would praise God one minute and the next minute I was screaming at the top of my lungs. My kids would hide or get to doing what I asked them to do in the first place. As I look back at this I wonder how they ever survived and better yet I can’t believe what a crabby mother I was. I still come unglued and I stuff a lot of feelings inside, maybe not as vocal as I once was but one thing is sure I am still a work in progress.
My kids are mostly grown too, Julie. And this sure has helped with imperfect progress. But I can still go there with my hubby…or my sisters…or even on the phone with my girls if pushed. There’s a rut I can get return to. How thankful I am for progress.
Love it!!!! Great blog post and thank you so much for sharing!
Teenagers can definitely bring out the devil in you! I have 3 of them and an 11 year old not far behind! I’ve had many unglued moments, but I’m making imperfect progress!
Thanks so much for sharing your blog post!
Thanks for sharing as I”m working my way around the blog hop! I completely relate to your experience as much as I hate to admit it.
I feel so sorry for parents today. They have no options available to control their children. You can’t spank them. Yelling is wrong and useless. You can’t take their games away, because then they just drive you crazy. I’m so glad that I had options, so that I didn’t have to come unglued with my children as much. It’s other people I come unglued with, my husband, other family members, sometimes church people. I have no way of influences any of them unless I Don’t become unglued. God bless all of you young mothers! May he give you insight and great wisdom and creative ideas!
Wow this is awesome I felt like it should have been my blog!!!! I am so happy to know I am not alone in coming unglued… I just realized this morning after coming unglued on my 11 yr old last nite what the problem really is…ME. My husband and son are gone all day at work and school, then I go to work at night. Once I get home its mom this and honey that…questions questions questions. I am tired by this time and its time for my day to end. I get frustrated for I feel I am being attacked from all side when I realized today that the reason they are doing this is because its the only time in the day we are really together and they want their time with me that on a normal schedule would happen when they got home from their day… wow I feel so bad but am so thankful that I know from now on I have to give them their time after I get off work. I am loved and much needed at this time of night and will be there fro them from now on..Thanks be to God and unglued for showing me this.
Thank you for sharing! I am a mother and I can very much relate to what you are saying. We know we should not yell and we try not to get to that point but then it all happens so fast. I have had those moments far to many times. But Praise GOD there is HOPE and we will get there through imperfect progress together. Blessings
I can definitely relate. when my kids were all younger I didn’t have any unglued moments. I really enjoyed be a mom and thought this is easy. I had really good kids. I dont know what has happened, OH YEAH I do, they became TEENAGERS. I have more unglued moments in the last couple of years than I have had in my life. So yeah they can bring the devil out in you. Thank God for this Study and makjng imperfect progress together.
It is a relief that we are not alone. We really can make progress, though imperfect. If God is for us, who can be against us? Bless you!
Hi HEATHER,
I’ve had moments like that. I working really hard at not coming unglued. Remember Imperfect Progress. My daughter says I
say to much, so I’m working on being a better listener, instead
of a bigger talker.