Thinking About Oklahoma and How It Relates To Me….

Thing 1 has one goal right now… one aspiration.  To be accepted and attend Oklahoma Wesleyan University.

Like many, I was shocked and saddened by the news of the tornados in Oklahoma today.

OKWU is just 2 hours from Oklahoma City.

And like many, I started to question why God would allow something like this to happen.

And then I curse Adam and Eve for being… well, human.  Like me.

And then I feel bad because I’m judging people I never even met.  Because truth be told, I’m pretty sure I’d be the one to eat the apple I was told not to.

You see, I believe when the first sin happened it changed the way nature operated.  No longer was it perfect, and it opened the door to nature, weather, natural disasters.  I do not for one minute believe that God created or caused what happened today.

I do believe that good will come of this.

As I was reminding the hubs that many parents are without their children tonight…Thing 1 said to me, “So do you want me to not go to OKWU now, Mom?”

I hesitated for a moment before I said what I truly believe.

“I want you to go where God is calling you,” and after a pause, “I truly mean that.”

“I know you do, Mom,” he said.

“If it’s to OKWU then it’s to OKWU… if it’s to Zimbabwe, then it’s to Zimbabwe.  My mother sent her baby to war and she survived.”

I paused again.

“And I think I’ll know if you’re going where God calls you if I have a peace about it within my heart.”

We are not guaranteed tomorrow.  And I can’t predict disasters and keep my loved ones from harm’s way.

But I want to be the woman who does what God is calling her to do until her very last day – whenever that is.  And I want the same for my babies.

No matter where on this Earth that may be.

Until next time…

 

 

 

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Patience…Or Lack There Of

I don’t have patience.  I don’t want to wait.  Ever.

I pay extra money to Amazon so that I can have my items in 2 days (for free) because when I decide that I want and/or need something, I don’t want to wait.

I don’t like to fish because I am of the opinion that when I cast my line out in the abyss of water, that a fish should attach itself immediately so that I can reel it back in.  I don’t want to sit there and wait for Mr. Fish to mosey along and finally decide that my bait is the snack du jour.

Additionally, if it just so happens that a fish attaches itself immediately to my line, I don’t want to wait for my husband to get to my pole to remove the fish.  I want him there, standing next to me as that puppy comes in… camera in hand.

(because seriously, if I am fishing AND I caught something, we’re going to hear about it for days and I need evidence that I did it.)

I have no patience for learning new things which is why I’m ever so grateful that God blessed me with being a quick learner.  There are two things that I can think of right now that I couldn’t grasp quickly and I gave up… one thing (learning Flash) I could care less about… but the other (learning to play the guitar) is something that I still would love to be able to do… but because I know that it won’t come easily or quickly, I’m less apt to keep at it.

I know.  I’m lazy.

Or maybe unmotivated?

Regardless of what you want to call me?  One thing remains the same…

I’m impatient.

And I’m reminded of this every.  single. day.

You see, I LOVE to look at the houses around here and see what they have planted in their flower beds.  Often times, I will take pictures and ask my mother-in-law what they are.

She will tell me.

Then I will tell the hubs what I want.

He will purchase it.

Then ask me where to plant it.

Then he plants it.

All within a very short time frame… because, you know, I’m impatient.

Which, with plants, pretty much equates to hurry up and wait.

Every day for the past week, I’ve walked out my front door to see this across the street in the neighbor’s yard.

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(I wish that was clearer, but I had to zoom on my iPhone from the mailbox because I didn’t want to appear as creeperish as I felt AND because we had seven gazillion days of rain, while today was sunny, there was no way I was walking over to that bush to get a picture just for a blog post.)

Anywho… back to my impatience.

I look at that plant every day.  It’s be-u-ti-ful!  I mean, I bask in the glory of God’s creation every day that I walk out my front door and look at it.

I noticed it last year.

Took a picture.

Sent it to the hubs.

It’s a burning azalea or something having to do with fire.  Obviously.  It’s bright orange!  Like fire!

So of course, the picture to the hubs meant that one was in my possession within days and then in the ground and look.

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Don’t be all like oh how pretty.  Because in case you missed it, this one doesn’t yet look like this one (and I’ll repost so you don’t have to scroll back to compare.)

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And quite frankly?

I want it to.

Today.

(Totally not knocking the hubs.  One day I know it will be that pretty — should I not kill it first.  But I wanted the bush that I had been eyeing across the street.  And yes, the thought of sending the hubs across the street in the middle of the night with a shovel has crossed my mind.  But that would totally mess with the on staff at a church thing I got going on.)

So.

There you have it.

I’m taunted by the beautiful burning bush over there.

Every day.

Reminding me that I am so impatient.

What are you waiting for that reminds you of your impatience?

Until next time…

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Irony

Three years ago, I was doing what all soon-to-be-married women do…

Attempting to figure out what my new name would be and then all the variations on how to write it.

You know, a grown up version of what we did in middle and high school when a boy paid attention to us and we started doodling Mrs. so and so all over our notebooks.

Don’t even tell me you didn’t do that.  I’m not buying it.

First, it was hard to even decide what I wanted to call myself.

I mean, it was 2010. I didn’t have to take his name.   Yet, I didn’t feel confident marrying a man and keeping my ex-husband’s name.

I also didn’t feel confident getting rid of the name that I share with my biological children (the reason I kept my ex-husband’s last name when we divorced.  I didn’t divorce the kids… just him.)

So, here I was in a quandary, not sure what I should call myself and not hurt any one.

In the end, I decided to scrap my middle name given to me at birth (sorry Mom), keep Jacobson as my middle name and St.Clair as my new last name.  (Note:  Not hypenated.)

Heather Jacobson St.Clair

It took me a LONG time to come up with this name.

I even discussed this when I made it official at the Social Security Office.  I walked through my process with the lady at the window who I’m sure just wanted me to shut up, instead, nicely stating that I did, indeed, need to be happy with it…

I shared my new name with a friend who said, “Wow!  Heather Jacobson St.Clair.  That’s such an author name.”

And I agreed.  It had a really nice ring to it.  And I could totally see it at the bottom of the book that I would write and publish…

Except, since I’ve been married, my writing has been slim to none.

Part of it is the desire to write.  When it was just the three of us, I was more open.  They were my kids to be open about.  I’m a little more cautious now.

Words that were written here were used against me, so I’m cautious on that front as well.

But then there’s the time aspect to it.

My responsibilities have doubled.  Instead of two kids, there are four… five if you count the hubs… and with all those people, eating out or microwave meals aren’t really something we can do all the time, so there’s some homemaking involved.

And somewhere along the way, I morphed into this mom that I never thought I would/could be…

I’m not completely domestic, but I’m more than I was… (I made my own play dough a month ago!)

I’m not a stay-at-home-mom, but I might as well be… I work when the kids are in school and if they need me, I work right across the street from the school.

I don’t make the money I used to and sometimes I feel guilty… that I get to have all this fun while the hubs works hard.  (He doesn’t have a desk job.)  But then I’m reminded that he doesn’t have to worry about who’s going to leave work to pick up a sick kid, or who is going to get a kid to practice.  On the whole, that’s my job.  (I do have to ask for help from time to time when there is more than one kid that needs to get somewhere…)

I’m no where near the perfect mother, but I am madly in love with these children… in a way that I never thought possible… (even the ones that I didn’t birth…)

So here I am with an author’s name… with no published book.

I’m not building a platform.

I’m not trying to earn followers.

I can’t tell you the last time a tweet went out that I actually wrote.

And while I might not be penning the words of the story I know I have in me, I know that I’m an author in the story of their lives…

 

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And that, my friends, no matter how you look at it, is a masterpiece.

Until next time…

 

 

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The Latest Commercial That Irks Me

I worked in television sales on the local level for most of my career.  So I pay attention to commercials.

So have you seen this one?

If you don’t wish to watch, that’s okay (I don’t blame you).  But it’s for the Vaseline Spray and Go.  The woman literally goes from under clothes to completely dressed (complete with hat and shoes AND lotioned up – arms and legs) and ready to walk out the door in less than 30 seconds.

Have we, as a society, become so busy that this appeals to us?  That we don’t have the 5 minutes to apply lotion?

I would venture to say that if I purchase this and I was running late to begin with, I still wouldn’t take the time to use it.  I skip a morning of lotion.

So weigh in… do you use this?  Does this product appeal to you?  I’d love to know if I’m alone in this!

Until next time…

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Whirlwind Life… and I Ain’t Foolin’

I started a post two weeks ago called “Life Happening Before My Very Eyes” and it was a general catch up about life happening around the House of Chaos.  I got so busy, I never finished it.

And here I am, two weeks later, sitting at the library writing a post.  It needs to be done, but I find that if I’m in the office or at the house, it just doesn’t.   There’s always something else to do.

I kept thinking once March rolled out of here things would get a little more back to normal, whatever that is.  When you work in a church, it’s somewhat busy around the time that Jesus is born and about the time He dies and then rises again.

It’s exciting.  I’m not going to lie.

Throw a middle school retreat weekend in there as well as youth activities for Easter, including a flashlight Easter egg hunt and you get crazy.  And that doesn’t even include the activities that I participated in as a mom and not the Children/Youth Pastor.  You know, like the 5th grade field trip to the zoo and the Egg Hunt at another local church.

But here it is… April 1st.

Life is still crazy.

It’s Spring Break.  I have two choices with these kids.  Let them sit at home and rot their brains with TV and video games or get them out and active.  So I’m getting them out and active.  (Never mind that we are at the library, all of us on the computer.)  But this morning, we spent at the top of Mill Mountain… on a short hike and playing…. nineteen kids and six adults.  All part of a Spring Break program I put together.

Honestly, it was selfish.  I needed something to do with my kids.  So I planned some activities and invited the community.  I figured worse case scenario, no one would come and I would get paid to spend time with my kids.

But it was pretty cool to see the boys (and girls) playing football and making obstacle courses… and the kids ranged from four to sixteen… and all in between.

And when the time came for parents to pick them up, they weren’t done playing.

Me?  I was beyond done.  Hanging with a bunch of kids reminds me that my bones are so much older than theirs.

But the boys have been begging me for over a week to bring them to the library and the evenings have been so crazy… so I promised them today…

Of course, Thing 4 politely reminded me that she was the only one in the family that didn’t have a library card.  That’s not entirely true as the Hubs doesn’t have one — but I don’t see that happening.

So here we are.

I need to go to the grocery store.

I need to clean up the dishes from yesterday’s Easter meal.

I need to get caught up on the laundry.

But for now?  It’s so nice to sit in silence…

I’m even sipping on an iced coffee from the coffee shop within the library (free refills at that!) and process this life that I lead.

One that is always going to be a whirlwind because that’s what life is with two children, two step-children, and a gazillion other kids in my extended community.

And most days?

I wouldn’t trade it for the world…

Until next time…

 

 

 

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